When we got married last March, I was 62 and my wife was 27. The difference is 35 years old, an unmistakable age difference in marriage.
When I reported it to my friends before I got married, they jokingly told me that it was a crime. Well, I think the age difference in the average marriage is up to about 5-7 years, so 35 is a surprisingly large difference, that's for sure. However, it's not so uncommon in Filipina and foreign marriages.
I'd like to write about what I think about the disadvantages and advantages of what people are saying.
１．Generation gap I don't feel a generation gap at all. Because we were brought up in a different environment, there are more differences in culture and customs than in age. If we were Japanese, we might be concerned about the difference in sense of age, but if we were living together, we might be more likely to feel the gap between our personalities than the age.
physically unable to keep up with my young wife This is more or less true. My wife, unusually for a Filipino, likes to jog, etc. I can manage the distance of about 200 meters, but I can't do more than that. Other than that, I can manage, but I'm a little worried about how it will be in 5 years time.
anxiety about my wife's attraction to men her own age I have no concerns at all. I trust my wife completely, otherwise I wouldn't have married her in the first place.
I don't know if this will be helpful to anyone considering an age difference marriage, but these are my answers.
At the moment, the benefits are far more likely to be felt. For example, my wife is obviously more sensitive because she is younger. As I get older, I am less impressed. Seeing my wife who is moved by this stimulates my sensitivity. This is probably one of the reasons why we feel rejuvenated when we are with young people.
Like YouTube, I see my wife trying new things, and I'm thinking of starting one myself, but I think it's because I have someone nearby who gives me new inspiration.
As far as I'm concerned, I don't have any trouble at the moment because of the age difference in my normal life. I just don't know how my wife feels about it…
